First dates can be messy business. It is the deciding factor in a relationship. If the first date goes well, a second is sure to follow but a bad first date will end your relationship together. The location and activity of your first date is very important. If its too personal, the date will probably be overwhelming but if it is too crowded there’s no room to get to know one another. A great place for a first date is an art fair. Art fairs are populated, but also provide a chance to talk and learn about the other person.

f you’re sitting at home before your date trying to plan out what to talk about, that is the wrong way to do it. Your date should flow naturally, if you have to force conversation after the first ten minutes or so that is a bad sign. If you and the other person have a connection, conversations will most likely flow. There are always a few awkward silences, but no one can really ever escape those.

A good idea is to drive while listening to music, so when the conversation dies down you can ask your date about the music that’s playing. Another important piece of advice for going on a first date is how you present yourself. You will always hear people talking about being casually late and things like that to appear cool, but a lot of times those things don’t matter. In reality, a girl likes when her date is on time. If you’re going to run late, don’t be more than a few minutes past your set arrival time. After that, it starts to seem rude and obnoxious. People set time out to get ready, and by being late they get stuck, sitting with nothing to do while waiting for you. If you do get stuck in a situation that makes you late, give a call or text there way.

Your appearance also majorly affects your first date. Your outfit matters a lot. You cant put too much effort into it, but you cant look like a slob. If where you are going permits, a jean and cute shirt is appropriate for either sex. Often dark jeans are a better choice too. Light jeans can come off as trashy, or too casual. However if you decide to wear a dark colored shirt, light jeans may work better. Your scent also is very important, as odd as that is. You don’t wanna wear to much perfume or cologne, but putting it on can be a deal maker. Good smelling people often are a huge catch.

Make sure your first date with someone is memorable. You need to show all sides of you if you can. Show that you are fun and spontaneous if you are, or sensitive and loving. Make sure not to come on too strong however or you may frighten your date away. The first date will hopefully open a door to a relationship or close it. Even if you aren’t looking for a relationship and just want to causally date, its still crucial.